Wow - you really have to be ok w/ your body when you get offered a seat in the bus b/c the person thinks you are pregnant, when you are not, and you accept the seat smilingly.

Yes, that's what happened to me the other day.

First of all let me start by blaming Angelina Jolie. She was the one that started this whole - I am cool cause I am pregnant.... and its cool to be pregnant.
There are so many children born in the city of Vancouver -thanks to Angie. The Govt of Canada should single handedly thank her for increasing our population. No really, the govt was concerned a few years ago that our pop was not increasing fast enough...anyways - thank Jolie-Pitt team!

Here is my thinking about random people assuming that you are pregnant cause you are not rail thin....

Where do you get off judging normal women b/c they don't look emaciated and alien like.....

Now to my experience.

I am Indian - I have an Indian woman's body - yes I have curves and don't have the haunted look on my face cause really I have other things to worry about. And not eating a meal really gets in the way of making decent wage or doing my job. So, no, I don't starve myself. I have always had a belly. Even as a child.
There is nothing wrong w/ me medically - its just who I am.

This has, of course, caused me a lot of grief and pain as random people walking on the street have asked me if I was pregnant. No! and its none of your business! Is my reply.
Everytime this was assumed about me I would go home and cry and not eat. I have been offered seats in the bus b/c of my belly.
Everytime that happened I would glare at the person and snarl.

The other day was different. This woman assumed that I was carrying a child and offered me a seat. And I didn't glare or snarl....I said 'Sure, I'd love the seat'. Took it and sat down. Needless to say the bus was packed.
Now, you might think 'oh, the woman did not do anything wrong. She thought I was pregnant and offered me a seat in a packed bus'. Oh, but you see she did do something wrong there. She made an assumption about me - a complete stranger - and assumed that I am pregnant, b/c my bones weren't showing and I need a seat. That is really why I took the seat.
Not b/c I could not stand in the packed bus but b/c this woman made an assumption by looking at me!
And in my book that is a complete no-no. (One day I will write about the time I got chicken pox b/c I refused to judge a person based on what he looked like. But that is a completely different story)

My problem with the seat giving is that - why make an assumption like that? Why cant people just stick to their own business and not assume someone is pregnant b/c they are not thin? Why? Why the need to look like a model when a real normal woman has too many things to worry about and not enough money to buy her a personal trainer. And how is it anyone's business to assume something so personal about a complete stranger? How is being pregnant or not have anything to do w/ you?

And I have noticed this is always the case w/ pregnancy. People want to touch your belly or ask you personal questions about when the baby is expected or how many months or the sex of the baby...all that crap. When really if you are in the mall shopping - you really should not be asking the woman across from you about when is the child due - cause you know what - it wont make a difference in your world.

I know its all small talk - but why the personal attack?